I just saw your post in the lifting tag about your back. I hope your rehab goes well. I had some shit happen with my wrists, and I'm recovering some back issues, too. You don't have to go through it alone.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT.
I’m still not lifting, but the physio is doing… something. I hope that it will work quickly. Also, omg you are a bisexual weightlifting dude, be my friend.
Gave my cat some ‘nip for the first time ever. She sneezed a lot, rolled around in it, went on a tear, ate a bunch of food, then passed out.
Sounds about right.
"Act my age?
#what's me age again
What the fuck is that, “act my age”?
What do I care how old I am?
The Ocean is old as fuck.
It will still drown your ass with vigor."
It’s only Wednesday
#how am i being this productive?
#it's all good
#just so much
Already this week I:
- Submitted two applications for grad school funding
- Had a physio appointment
- Delivered a presentation for a final project
- Submitted an application to an entrepreneurship incubation program
- Started a conversation with a prof about a potential partnership between my organisation and another
- Incorporated a business
- Ran two long experiments
- Created two conference sessions for the conference I am planning
- Had goodbye beers with my new friend (he’s coming back, don’t worry)
- Received and pursued a lead for a potential summer job/full time position for after graduation at a company where I would love working (gotta have a Plan B)
I think I need to sleep.
On Straight Friends
I’m developing a new friendship with a straight guy, which is sort of unfamiliar territory for me. Most of my friends are either women or queer or both, because I generally find straight guys to be very threatening. I know that that comes from a projection of early experiences of bullying by asshole bros onto my current interactions with straight men and that it is therefore unrealistic of me. Thus I want to unlearn these things, but obviously ingrained behaviours are very difficult to change. This is especially true when they’ve been reinforced fairly extensively for nearly ten years of my life.
What’s especially nice about this relationship is the fact that there’s absolutely no chance of sex. We get to be just friends. When you’re a queer guy and you make a new queer guy friend, usually there’s a period where one person is into the other and there’s some pursuing that happens and eventually expectations are not met and somebody gets hurt and maybe you move past it, but maybe you don’t. This has been my experience, anyway. But with my new straight friend I know that when he invites me over to watch Netflix, that isn’t code for “come over and we’ll cuddle and then I’ll try to bang you while Netflix plays in the background”. We are literally going to watch Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles or Star Trek and enjoy that together.
The other aspect that I really like is the fact that we can talk about women together. I have almost nobody with whom I can do that. I’m out to my new friend (we connected through a feminist Facebook group where sexuality has been a topic of discussion multiple times) and he trusts me in my orientation, so there’s no questioning or doubt. Even my brother—who is probably my closest straight guy friend—often questions my sexuality instead of taking it at face value. When I talk about ladies with him, he’s always doubting me. So it’s really cool to be able to talk about women AND how that I think Tom Daley is a dreamboat with my new friend without any judgement.
This has been a man-crush post.